Essential Rights – Sheikh Mohammad Saleh Al'Othaimeen - Rahima-hullaah

[Umm Mohammad]

The First and Foremost Right: The Right of Allah, the Almighty

The most essential right that man must fulfill, first, is the right of his creator, cherisher and care taker, Allah, the Almighty, who has the most important rights of all. Allah , the Almighty , is the king of all kings , the Omnipotent, the just , the Only one , Who has neither wife nor a son , the One Who creates from nothing , and returns His creations again to the earth to become like soil dirt once again. He is the One who grants all the graces since man was a fetus in his mother’s womb where no one was capable of providing sufficient food and nourishment, except Him. In the womb, Allah, the Almighty, provided three layers of darkness for comfort. Protection and proper isolation. Later, He was the one to provide your mother with warm milk from her breast to give you suitable type of food at all times, and in accordance with your age. Yet, Allah, the Almighty, was the One Who directed you to use the sucking function provided for you, enabling you to suckle the milk from your mother. Moreover, He is the one who placed love, tender care, and compassion. Love and the sense of attachment in your parents’ hearts to employ all what they have for your comfort, well –being and early stage of your life when you needed the care, the shelter, the comfort and other things. Furthermore, He is the One Who provided you with natural intelligence, mental faculties, sense, and energy. Strength and so forth to care for yourself and for others, professing the Creator’s abilities and graces unto you. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“It is He Who broughtyou forthfrom the wombs of your mothers when ye knew nothing; and He gave you hearing and sight and intelligence and affections:That ye may give thanks (to God)” 16:78

If Allah, the Almighty, stopped His virtuous care for a glimpse of an eye of us, men, women and children, or for only few moments, our entire life or world would collapse, vanish, come to an end, or be destructed. It is because of the mercy, blessings, care, gifts, grants of Allah, the Almighty, unto us, that leads us to think that Allah, the Almighty, is entitled for most important right of all. He , the Almightily, definitely , has the right of creating us from nothing , preparing us for whatever we shall become while realizing we are completely incapable of doing anything , and last , but not the least , providing us with all that we have in terms such as health , strength , senses , food , shelter , abilities. And yet, Allah , the Almighty , does not ask anything in return for all His gifts, grants and bounties offered by generously without limitation , as He grants to all who believe in Him , follow His teachings and commands, and to those who do not , as well. He requires no favors from us He demands no provision of food or drink , as He, the Almighty, is neither in need of nourishment , nor in need for us for ant reason. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“Enjoin prayer on thy people, and be constant therein. We ask thee not to provide sustenance: We provide it for thee. But the (fruit of) the Hereafter is for Righteousness.”20:132

The only thing that Allah, the Almighty, demands from His creation, which is again for man’s interest, if applied, fulfilled and practiced, is to worship Him, and Him alone with any association of others with Him in worship. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“I have only created Jinn and men that they may serve Me. No sustenance do I require of them, nor do I require that they should feed Me. For God is He Who gives (all) sustenance, Lord of Power, steadfast (for ever) ''. 51:56-58

Allah, the Almighty, demands complete, through and unrestricted submission in slavery for Him, in respect of His position as Full and Complete Lord, Cherisher and Care taker. Man must present himself before His Creator and Cherisher in full humiliation, obedience and submission to His Commands and Will without questioning the validity of the rule, or even the wisdom behind it, as He, the Almighty, knows well what it is good for His creations as a sole Creator. Man is required to fully believe, wholeheartedly, in that is reported soundly and truly of His Creator through His Prophets, Messengers and Books or scriptures. Man could easily see, touch and feel all the graces of Allah, the Almighty, surrounding him in his life; therefore, it is not extremely impolite, rude and inconsiderate to deny all these gifts and graces

If any provided you with a fraction of what Allah , the Almighty , has provided , you would give him a proper respect , consideration to whatever he demands of you as long as such request are within reason, of course . It is not awful to confront one’s Lord, Creator, Cherisher and Caretaker with denial of His Commands, rules, teachings and instructions which is for the benefit, welfare and well-being of man himself, not for the benefit of the Lord himself? In fact , all good that comes to man is definitely from His Lord , Allah , the Almighty and all evil or bad things dismissed from man is also due to the mercy of Allah , the Almighty. As Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran

“And ye have no good things but is from God: And moreover, when ye are touched by distress, unto Him ye cry with groans.” 6:53

In reality, this right that Allah , the Almighty , requires for Himself from man is very easy to observe , simple to respect , clear to understand and practical to apply for those whom Allah , the Almighty , made it so for them. The Crux of the matter is that Allah , the Almighty , did not make this right a difficult task to achieve , impossible to live by , hard to apply , or even tough understand. Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran

“And strive in His cause as ye ought to strive, (with sincerity and under discipline). He has chosen you, and has imposed no difficulties on you in religion; it is the cult of your father Abraham. It is He Who has named you Muslims, both before and in this (Revelation); that the Apostle may be witness for you, and ye be witness for mankind! So establish regular prayer, give regular Charity, and hold fast to God! He is your Protector, the best to protect and the best to help”. 22:78

This right of Allah, the Almighty, is an ideal belief, truthful faith and belief in justice and fairness. This right results in fruitful and excellent quality, good deed and actions. The essence of this belief is love reverence and respect. Meanwhile, the result and fruit of this belief is dedication, sincerity and full devotion to truth, justice, and good ethnic and moral practice. In fact, the give of daily prayer of Muslims is but a simple result of the application of this right of Allah, the Almighty. However, such daily prayers are for the benefits of man himself. They will abolish the minor sins committed during that day , increase the rewards of man for his good actions, improve morals, practices and devotions of the heart of man while improving various situations of man, such as patience and perseverance, concentration, dedication , steadfastness, devotion, commitment to time, production and excellence and so forth. Although this required from all, it is in accordance with every individual’s abilities as Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“So fear as much as ye can” 64:16

The prophet , (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), told a man called ‘Imran bin Al-Hussain , who was ill at that time :” Offer Your Obligatory “ prayer while standing , but if you can not do that , then offer it while sitting , and if you can not do that , then , offer it while laying down on your side:1

Consequently, man as a result of his belief in Allah, the Almighty, and his religion of Islam, is to pay Zakat. This is a small percentage of the entire Wealth is given to man, but yet, it benefits the poor and the needy individuals in the society. It does not benefit Allah, the Almighty. Zakat benefits the poor, but by the same token, it does not harm or burden the rich person who gives of his wealth

As a believing, obedient Muslim, one must observe Saum (fasting) during the month of Ramadan, the ninth month in the Hijra – lunar calendar, every year, in fulfillment of the right of Allah, the Almighty. However, if one is unable to fulfill this duty for legitimate reason or excuse, then, one may make it up some other time of the year, or pay necessary fines (in charity) for missing it, as Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran:

But if any one is ill, or on a journey, the prescribed period (should be made up) by days later. 2:185

Also , as a result of the application , observation and adherence to this immense right of Allah , the Almighty , a believing Muslim must perform Hajj ( pilgrimage) to the holy shrine of K’aba , at Makah , one tome in one’s life as a requirement for those who can physically and financially can afford it

This natural right of Allah, the Almighty, is the one to be fulfilled wholeheartedly. Consequently, all the matters related to it in terms of full belief, Salah “prayer”, Zakah“charity or poor dues”, saum “fasting” and Hajj “pilgrimage” must be practiced, observed and maintained on regular basis. All other facts , duties and requirements that Islam require from the believers are only required when there is a need for them , such as Jihad ( fight and struggle , holy war) for the cause of Allah , the Almighty supporting the cause of injustice to men when it occurs and needs support

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1Reported by Bukhari and Others

[Umm Mohammad]

The Rights of the Prophet, Peace Be Upon Him

This is the greatest right of human beings. There are no rights for any man on the face of Earth greater than the rights of the prophet, P.B.U.H. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“ We have truly sent thee as a witness, as a bringer of Glad Tidings, and as Warner: In order that ye (O men) may believe in God and His Apostle, that ye may assist and honor Him, and celebrate His praises Morning and evening”. 48: 8-9

It is a must, therefore, that love, care and full respect must be given to Allah‘s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), especially over all other people, including, but not limited to self, children and parents. Allah‘s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said: “One will not become a complete believer until I (Allah’s Apostle, Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) be more beloved to him than his own children, parents and all other people “. 1

To name some of the rights of the Prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), some of the most important are full respect, honor and love without any exaggeration or negligence. Proper respect and reverence of the Prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), during his life is to respect his tradition, applications, his person and way of life. As for the proper respect of the prophet after his death and departure of this world, it is to respect his traditions, actions and rules he laid down for man, along with divine constitution, the Glorious Quran, and the Sunah practices that was revealed to him from Allah, the Almighty. If a just person knows well how the companions of Allah’s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) respected him , showed their reverence and expressed their utmost appreciation to the tremendous gift he has given them , one would be able to realize how such honorable , reverent and respected companions expressed their love , admiration and respect to their prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam). It is reported that ‘Urwah bin Masoud, one of the tribe of Quraish, who was delegated to negotiate with the prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), during the truce of Hodaibyah, a small village in the outskirts of Makah. In the eighth year of Hire, Allah’s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), came with ten thousands Muslims to perform ‘Umbra (lesser Hajj) and return to Medina Where they lived, were refused permission to do so by the Quraish tribe, who then were governing people of Makah. ‘Urawah bin Masoud said to his people: “I have visited kings such as Chesrous, Caesar and Najashi. I have never seen a group of people honoring, respecting and cherishing the commands of their leader as I have seen the companions of Mohammed (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), I have noticed that whenever he ordered them to do something , they all haste and run to execute it to the letter. I have also seen them fight over the splashing water when he washes in ablution for prayer. I have noticed them lowering their voices when they are address him, out of respect. I have also noticed that no one looks him in the eyes or the face when they talk to him, out of respect and modesty”. 2

It was in this fashion that our elder Muslim respected, honored , revered and showed their love , appreciation and respect to our beloved prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam). Although the prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), has been greatly blessed with good character , an easy-going personality , generosity , kindness , ethics and lenience , the companions showed him every respect , love and consideration. Had the prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) been rough person, others could have easily have not gathered around him and befriended or even associated with him as Allah, the Almighty, as mentioned in the glorious Quran

One of the rights of the prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), upon us Muslims is to believe him fully and wholeheartedly in whatever he brings of the news and reports of Divine inspirations. This means, Muslims must believe their prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) in terms of whatever he, (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) relayed about previous nations and generations, as well as the future. He is also entitled to the right of full obedience in so far as all that he commands or forbids, due to the fact that all his commands are to be considered perfect and are aimed at our survival and hereafter. It is also one of his entitled rights to believe that the laws, rules and regulations he brought forth for Muslims all over the world are indeed , the best that any man on the face of Earth could bring. They are the most authentic, complete and comprehensive for the life of man on Earth, as well as, the hereafter. They are more complete than any other previous laws and instructions of any previous prophet or messenger, as those were sent to a particular group, people or a certain locality, as we learn from the right and authentic teaching of Islam. A believing Muslim must not give priority to any man-made or any other so-called divine or non-divine law, no matter who enforces or calls for it. Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran:

But no, by thy Lord, they can have no (real) Faith, until they make thee judge in all disputes between them, and find in their souls no resistance against thy decisions, but accept them with fullest conviction.” 4:46

It is also, Allah, the Almighty who stated in the glorious Quran

“Say: “ if ye do love God, follow me: God will love you and forgive you your sins: For God is Oft-Forgiving, most merciful.” 3:31

One of the rights that Allah’s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), is entitled for every believing Muslim is to defend his Divine laws, rules and regulations bought forth for Muslims all over the world. One must attempt to defend such divine laws by every possible means in accordance to the type of attack that it is under attack. If the enemies of the divine laws of Allah ‘s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), are using any kind of a proof of evidence to proof the Divine Laws of Islam are faulty , then a knowledgeable , believing and committed Muslim must use his utmost power of knowledge to defend the divine laws of Allah’s Apostle (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam). Similarly, if the attack was against Muslims by any other weapon, then committed Muslims must defend their faith and belief accordingly with suitable weapons

None of the Muslims, regardless of position or status in the society, must condone, accept or pardon any attack aimed at the divine laws of the prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam), according to the capability. Such person is labelled sinner, weak in faith and belief, and short of expressing his true love, consideration, appreciation and respect to the rights of his the prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam


This Hadith statement Of Allah‘s Apostle, (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) is reported by Both Bukhari and Muslim 1

2 “The Abridged Biography of the prophet Mohammed (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam)”, Abdullah bin Mohammed bin Abdel Wahhab, P.300

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[Umm Mohammad]

No single person, in the right frame of mind, believes in denial the rights of the parents unto their own children. The parents are, indeed, the very reason for the existence of their child. Both parents are entitled to great rights by their children in accordance to Islam, and all other sounds principles, as well. But, let us closely examine the right of parents to their children according to Islam

Parents raise their own children and care for them through their childhood. Both suffer a lot for the comfort, pleasure, happiness, health and satisfaction of their children. They wake up and stayed awake, in order for their child to sleep. They suffer all kinds of headache, fatigue, and tiredness for the contentment of their child, particularly while they are infants

A mother carries the child in her womb, for nine lunar months, in most normal pregnancies. She gives her fetus from her own food and sustenance bearing all the biological, chemical, and physical changes that she is burdened with, with a pleasant feeling, high hopes and beautiful expectation of her beloved baby. All these difficulties encountered by a mother , although causing her fatigue , weakness end many other problems , are not but pleasure to most normal pregnant mothers who re in love with their children in their wombs. Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran

“And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: In travail upon travail did his mother bear him and in years twain, was his weaning (Her the command to Me and to thy parents: To Me is (he final) Goal” 31:14

Later in the life of the child, his mother nurses the child regardless of hoe tiring this process is, how demanding it may be, how difficult it could become at times, but still mothers sacrifice all for their beloved babies. Normal mothers willingly , happily and gladly do that for their beloved children , in the most ordinary cases for two years or even longer , without compliant , burden or even hesitation , day and night, summer and winter, busy or unoccupied , tired or rested , happy or sad , as mothers again take special interest in their babies

It is, therefore , for that very reason , along with many others, illustrated later , that Allah, the Almighty, constituted this immense right on man towards his parents. The sacrifices of mothers mainly are most distinct, unique and an act that stands on its own merits. Fathers nevertheless are also next in importance for the child is at an early stage of his/her life when such child can not fetch for himself , defend himself or earn for himself. Mothers, however, carry on their emotions, caring feelings, loving and concern about their own children for much longer periods in life. In fact , some mothers approach death , or even their own children have grand children , but yet , they still considered them “babies” as, they never left that infant and helpless stage. For that reason, Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old stage in thy life, say no word to them in contempt, nor repel them but address them in terms of honor. And, out of kindness, bower to them the wing of humility, and say: “My Lord! Bestow upon them thy mercy even as they cherished me childhood”. 17:23-24

The most essential right of parents unto their children, male and female, is to be most kind, helpful, respectful, caring, mindful, gentle and keen to them. A child must exert every effort, financial ability and physical abilities to be kind, good, helpful, protective and serving to them at any given time of their life. A child must , at any given time in his life , obey their commands and follow their requests and instructions , as long as such instructions and commands do not contradict , conflict with , or disrespect the command of Allah , the Almighty , or cause the child any physical or mental harm

A child must be kind in words, treatment and actions to his parents. It is a right of the parents on their children to be pleasant in their presence and serve them with pleasure and without any complaints, hidden or apparent. It is their due right to be served from their children at their old age, in case of aging and illness and being very weak, with no compliant, criticism or grievance. A child will, most likely, suffer the same things his parents from in aging, weakness and may be the state of senility. A child in most normal circumstances, could become a parent himself, and may become an undesirable or unwanted parent in his children home or house hold, if Allah, the Almighty, wanted for such a child this situation. Such an aging parent is in need for help, caring and assistance of his children as well. This is the normal life, as you deal others, and especially your parents, Allah, the Almighty, will provide you with children who will treat you in the same manner and fashion. Therefore , if a child grew up to be kind to his old and aging parents, when they need care , service and assistance , let him rest assured that Allah, the Almighty , will cause his children to be as nice , or on the contrary , as evil , as one was to his parents. In fact, as you treat your parents, your own children will treat you. Moreover, Allah, the Almighty, placed the parents in such a high position in accordance with Islam, the religion of he pure, innate and practical way of life. The rights of parents as preserved by in Islam by Allah , the Almighty , are so immense that He, the Almighty, placed their rights upon their children nest to His Own right upon man, Whom He , the Almighty, created , cherished , sustained and supported. Allah stated in the glorious Quran

“Serve God, and join not any partners with Him; and good to parents”. 4:36

Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, places kindness to parents in a position higher than jihad, struggle and actual fight for the cause of Allah, the Almighty, in an Islamic battle and for a noble Islamic cause. Ibn Masoud, Radhi Allahu Anhu , companion of Allah’s Apostle , Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam narrated that :” I asked Allah’s Apostle , Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, : ‘What is the most beloved deed in the sight of Allah , the Almighty?” He, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, said:” Offering Salah in its due and prescribed time.” I then asked: “What is next”? He Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, said “kindness to one’s parents. “ I further asked:” What is next?” He, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, said:” Jihad for the cause of Allah, the Almighty.” This Habit statement of Allah’s Apostle reported by both Bukhara and Muslim

This Habit, definitely , shows the importance of the rights of parents upon their children .It is a very unfortunate situation to notice , nowadays that many individuals , regardless of creed , believe , national or geographical location , social or economical status , are showing discern , humiliation , carelessness , indifference or even neglect to their own parents . At times , the best thing that one does is to send a gift , a greeting card or a message with someone , a telephone call , or a telegram or a even a fax to his parent wishing them a happy year , a happy birthday , a happy anniversary or any other occasion. One forgets that amount of effort they exerted physically, biologically, socially, economically, emotionally and spiritually to see their beloved child grow to become what he/she is. Occasionally, children may get together for reunion, so to speak to, or for a special occasion or event. Nine out of ten times if you ask a person why is brought up in a western hemisphere, although he might be a Muslim, about what he would do with own parents when they grow of, grumpy and maybe incapable of caring for their own affairs, the answer comes spontaneously: “I will arrange a very nice, clean and pleasant nursing home!!!!” What caring a child! One forgets totally what his parents did for him at his young age! How much they suffered and struggled for him. How much they sacrificed for his safety, pleasure, health and happiness. That is history. He can not take the extra effort to care for them when they really need his care and company in a pay back so to speak terms and conditions!!! Moreover, it is noticed, nowadays also that some very unfortunate parents are treated rather inhumanely by their own children. There are even some other children who do not admit any right for their parents but rather discern them, attempt to ridicule them, insult them, humiliate them or even beat them in private, or at times in public callings from senile, old man, old woman, and every other name in the book. Such youngsters will get their due and fair reward in this life before the hereafter, Allah, the Almighty, knows best

Islam insists on the rights of the parents due to the very nature of human feelings, human needs, human race and society. That , what we, Muslims believe is a sort of dedication that Allah, the Almighty , placed in the hearts of the young Muslims generation so the Muslims Society become distinguished and unique for its own merits. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents.” 31:14

That is the Islamic criterion for the right of the parents. This is but a truly human, honoring and respectful treatment to the physical parents who produced us from their very existence, dedicated their life, efforts, wealth and all what that they can afford to see us the way we are. Those who stayed awake during the nights when we ached , deprived themselves new clothes to see us wearing new clothes , suffered when we suffered , celebrated our first step , felt happy and proud when we achieved , felt miserable and unhappy when we failed. That is why we should honor them at their old age. This natural right for the parents is preserved, honored, respected and practiced by truly committed Muslims, young and old, anywhere in the Islamic world. That is also why we urge everyone, Muslim or non-Muslim to learn about the beauty of Islam as a complete and integral way of life. It is indeed the religion of pure and innate that does not clash or contradicted with the correct natural matters of this life

[Umm Mohammad]

The Right of Children

Let us first establish that children in accordance to the Islamic concept means both male and female. Some of anti-Islamic concepts accuse Islam by differentiating between male and female children claiming that it does prefer boys over girls in terms of inheritance, ‘Aqeeqa (slaughter of two lambs upon the birth of a male baby and one lamb for a baby girl) and other matters. In accordance with true Islam teaching, both male and female are alike in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Each , however, is physically prepared and equipped to perform certain task and duties that are suitable to his/her nature .All again are equal in religious duties , except for certain exception that are defined and illustrated by Allah , the Almighty, in the glorious Quran , or declared and specified by Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam. Only these differences are to be acknowledged and honored by in accordance with Islam and its teachings.

Children in accordance to Islam are entitled to various and several rights. The first and the famous right is the right of properly brought up, raised and educated. This means that children should be given suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them fro their entire life. They should be engraved with true values, the meaning of right and wrong, and true and false, correct and incorrect, appropriate and inappropriate and so forth and so on. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“O ye who believes! save yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is Men and Stones”. 66:6

Allah’s Apostle, Shalala Alibi way Salam, also Said: “Every one of you (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them” This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim

Children therefore are a trust given to the parents. Parents are to be responsible for this trust on the Day of Judgment. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and the basic and essential religious teachings of their children

If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgment. The children will become better citizen and pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this life, and in the hereafter.

Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“And those who believe and whose families follow them in faith, to them shall We join their families: Nor shall We deprive them (of the fruit) of aught of their works: (Yet) is each individual in pledge for his deeds.”25:21

Moreover, Allah’s Apostle ,Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, said : ”Upon death, man’s deeds will “definitely” stop except for three deeds , namely: a continuous charitable fund , endowment or goodwill ; knowledge left for people to benefit from ; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously pray Allah , the Almighty , for the soul of his parents” This Hadith is reported by Muslim

In fact, such a statement reflects the value of proper upbringing of children. It has an everlasting effect, even after death

Unfortunately, many parents from every walk of life, in every society, regardless of creed, origin, social and economical status, etc., have neglected this very important this imposed right of their own children unto them. Such individuals have indeed lost their children as a result for their own negligence. Such parents are so careless about the time their children spent with no benefit, the friends they associate with, the places they go to etc., such parents they do not care, are totally indifferent about where their children go, when they come back and so forth and so on, causing the children to grow without any responsible adult and caring supervision. Such parents neglect even to instruct, direct or guide their children to the proper way of life, behavior or even attitudes towards others. Yet, you may find these parents are so careful about their wealth. They are extremely concerned about their own business, work and otherwise. They exert every possible effort to lead a very successful life in terms of materialistic gains, although all this wealth is not actually theirs. No one will take wealth to the grave

Children are not only to be well-fed, well-groomed, properly dressed for seasons and appearance, well-taken care in terms of housing and utilities. It is more important to offer the child comparable care in terms of educational, religious training, and spiritual guidance .The heart of a child must be filled with faith. A child‘s mind must be entertained with proper guidance, knowledge and wisdom. Clothes, food, housing, education are not , by any means , an indication of proper care of the child , proper education and guidance is far more important to a child than his food , grooming and appearance

One of the due rights of children upon parents is to spend for their welfare and wee-being moderately Over spending or negligence is not condoned, accepted or even tolerated in Islam. Such ways negative effect on the child regardless of the social status. Men are urged not to be miserly to his children and household, who are their natural heirs in every religion and society. Why would one miserly to those who are going to inherit his wealth. They are even permitted to take moderately from their parent's wealth to sustain themselves if the parents declined to give them proper funds for their living

Children also have the right to be treated equally in terms of financial gifts. None should be preferred over the others. All must be treated fairly and equally. None should be deprived his gift from the parents. Depriving, or banning the right of the inheritance, or, other financial gifts during the lifetime of the parents or preference of parents for a child over the other will be considered in accordance to Islam an act of injustice. Injustice will definitely lead to an atmosphere of hatred, anger and dismay amongst the children in one household. In fact, such an act of injustice may, most, likely, lead to animosity amongst the children, and consequently, this effect in entire family environment. In certain cases when special child may show tender care to his aging parent, for instance, causing the parent to grant such a child a special gift, or issue him an ownership of a house, a factory, or a land, a farm, a car, or any other valuable items. Islam, however, considers such a financial reward to such caring, loving or may be obedient child, a wrong act. A caring child is entitled only for reward from Allah, the Almighty. Although it's nice to grant such child something in appreciation for dedication and special efforts, but this must not lead to an act of disobedience to Allah, the Almighty. It may be that the heart and feelings of such a loving and caring child may change, at one point in time, causing him to become a nasty and harmful child. By the same token, a nasty child may change at any given time, as well, to become a very caring and kind child to the same parent. The hearts and feelings are, as we all know, in the hands of Allah, the Almighty, and can be turned in any direction at any given time and without any previous notice. This, indeed, is one of the reasons to prevent an act of financial preference of a child over another. On the other hand, there is no assurance or guarantees that a caring child can handle the financial gift of his parent wisely

It is narrated by Abu bakr, Radhi Allahu Anhu, who said that Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, was informed by one of his companions, al-N’uman bin Basheer, who said:”O prophet of Allah! I have granted a servant to one of my children (asking him to testify for that gift),” But Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, asked him:” Did you grant the same to each and every child of yours?” When Allah’s Apostle ,Shalala Alibi way Salam was informed negatively about that , he said” Fear Allah , the Almighty, and be fair and just to all of your children . Seek the testimony of another person, other than me. I will not testify to an act of injustice.” This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim. Thus, Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam called such an act of preference of one child over the others an act of “injustice” Injustice is prohibited and forbidden in Islam. But , if a parent granted one of his children financial remuneration to fulfil a necessity , such as a medical treatment coverage , the cost of a marriage , the cost of initializing a business , etc., then such a grant would not be categorized an act of injustice and unfairness . Such a gift will fall under the right to spend in an essential needs of the children, which is a requirement that parent must fulfil

Islam sees that if a parents fulfill their duties towards all children in terms of providing them with necessary training, educational backing, moral, ethical and religious education, this will definitely lead to a more caring child, better family atmosphere and better social environment and awareness .On the other hand, any religious in that parenthood duties can lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment to a parent at a later age

[Umm Mohammad]

The Right of Relatives

All relatives, immediate or distant, enjoy certain rights upon believing Muslims. Each relative has a certain level of rights according to the Islamic teachings. Such levels are hinged upon close relationships of the individual, as it is set forth by Allah, the Almighty, and Allah’s Apostle, Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam. Sound social ties and fruitful relationships are extremely valuable in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. It is, therefore, important to study such ties from an Islamic perspective, observe them and maintain sound and cultivated relationships which led to a better society, close relationships, more harmonious community and a better environment. Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran: “And render to the kindred their due rights” 17:26. He, Allah, the Almighty also stated in the glorious Quran: “Serve God, and join not any partners with Him; and do well to parents, kinsfolk.” 4:36

It is required by every Muslim individual , male and female , young or adult , poor or rich , close or distant to be good to their relatives in every possible way by every affordable means whether physical , mental , spiritual , moral or financial. The amount of support is proportional to the status or level of the relationship of the relative, and is evaluated based on the need of such relative. This matter that has its own merits based on religious teachings, moral obligations, mental judgment and pure innate requirements and obligations. This, on the other hand reflects to what extent Islam agrees with the pure, innate and natural demands of man on the faces of this earth.

Believing Muslim individuals who are committed to Islam and its sound, pure and accurate teachings are urged time and time again, and constantly reminded with the value of such noble deed to a relative. Many statements support this fact from both the glorious Quran and the Sunah of the prophet of Islam Mohammed bin Abdullah, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, as we will illustrate in the following paragraph.

Abu Hurayrah, Radhi Allahu Anhu narrated of Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam: “Allah, the Almighty created all creations. Upon finishing his creations, the womb stood up and said: “O Allah! this the place of one who seeks refuge with You from boycott and being banned or ex communicated “, Allah, the Almighty, said: “Yes indeed. Do not accept that I (myself) will befriend whoever befriends you (the womb, or rather the relatives generated and tied together due to the ties and relationships of the womb). And I shall discontinue My relations and ban who ban you?! “The womb said: “I accept “. Allah, the Almighty, said: “I assure this for you”. Then Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said: “Read if you wish the revelation of the glorious Quran:

“Then, is it to be expected of you, if ye were put in authority, that ye will do mischief in the land, and break your ties of kith and kin? Such are the men whom God has cursed for He Has made them deaf and blinded their sight”. 47: 22-23

This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim.

Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam also is reported to say: “He/She who believes in Allah, the Almighty and Day of Judgment must communicate, be good, courteous and kind to his kith and kin or relatives.”

This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim.

It is unfortunate to notice that many people neglect such important social rights and religious obligations. Many Muslims, unfortunately do not care to be kind to their relatives neither financially, if they are rich and their relatives are poor and needy, or by social relations or even any help that they may be able to render t no cost. At times you may find a person, on the contrary, being harsh, mean, irrespective, jealous or miserly to his own relatives, while being the opposite towards other who are distant. Some people , unfortunately , do not even visit their relatives , offer them occasional gifts and presents , look after them when in need, help them or even extend a helping hand if really in desperate need or help.

On the other hand, there are other kinds of people who establish good relationships with their relives only for the sake of relationships, not for the cause of Allah, the Almighty. Such a person in reality is not doing what he is doing for the fulfillment of the commands of Allah, the Almighty, but is paying back those relatives what was paid to him in advance. Such an act is applicable to relatives, friends, and distant people. A true good person is the one who establish good rapport with his relatives for the noble causes of the pleasure of Allah, the Almighty, only , and hoping to improve his ties with Him, the Almighty regardless if they did the same with or not.

Bukhari reported of Abdullah bin ‘Amr nin al-‘Anas, Radhi Allahu Anhu, companion of Allah’s Apostle , Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam who said: “ A person who is good to his relative is not person who rewards them , or repays them equally for what they do to him. A good person is the one who does good to his relatives even if they do not do that to him.

Visit them even if they do not visit him, give them even if they do not give him, and so forth.” “ A man asked Allah’s Apostle , Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam,” O prophet of Allah I have some relatives whom I visit , be kind to and give whatever I can , but they do the opposite to me, I try to be extremely patient with them regardless of the hams , inconsiderateness and troubles they cause to me. What should I do in such case? Allah’s apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said: “if you are truly what describe, then you are as if you let them eat ashes (as result of their own ding) so long you continue to do good to them. Yet, Allah, the almighty, continues to support you, aid you and help you over them as long as you continue being good to them.”

It is a real pleasure that one gains from being good and kind to his relatives at large. If they only thing man gets from such a noble social act are the pleasure of Allah, the Almighty, it suffices man in his life. But, it is most likely that man will get tremendous benefits from fulfilling commands of Allah, the Almighty, in his life. One definitely grows socially, matures ethically and feels at ease and peace with himself and with community around him.

Man is week without the support of his immediate family members or the moral support of his extended family members. Islam agrees with the norms of life. It coincides with the basic requirements of man in his social life. Establishing such rights by Allah, the Almighty, to govern the Islamic life and society is but a blessing of Allah, the Almighty to man all over world. Such relationships will produce close –knit society, better relations amongst the various individuals and components of various units of society

[Umm Mohammad]

The Right of the Husband and the Wife

Marriage tie have great impact and significance in any given society all over the old. It is, in the first place, a tremendous bond that ties the husband and the wife. As a result of this blond, many rights and requirements are imposed on both, towards each other, their children, their in-laws, their relatives and their social obligations. As financial relation is also established, this, at times, might strain the ties between the spouses. Moreover, there are certain physical the rights that constituted for both spouses as a result of the martial relationship. All these items, and more, are properly addressed in the light of Islam, the religion of Allah, the Almighty, and in accordance with the practices of Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam. Such obligations ties and relationships are, at its best, accord with Islam, as will be discussed herein. This coincides with the pure, innate and human nature of man who is eager to lead a sensible, meaningful, affectionate, emotionally sound, physically comforting and spiritually meaningful life

Both husband and wife must commit themselves fully to each other in the light of Islam, or for this matter, in light of the requirements of pure human nature. Both must be kind, good, sincere, affectionate, caring, polite, respectful and generous to each other. Each will constitute a half in martial relation. Therefore, each must bear the responsibilities of his share. Each must honour this tie, be pleasant to their companion and offer the utmost possible to make the relation lasting, pleasing, meaningful and coherent

Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran concerning the treatment of one’s spouse, the wife in particular:

“On the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take dislike to them it may hat ye dislike a thing, and God brings about through it deal of good.” 4:19

Perfection , of course , belongs to Allah , the Almighty, Many times , one finds defects in the relationship one has with friend, associate ,a partner ,teacher , a tremendously important to both individuals. It is, therefore, necessary to bear some inconveniences for the sake of generally good and everlasting relationship. That is why Islam, as a way of life, imposes practical principles upon its followers

On the other hand, Islam offers man an edge in the relationship due to the fact that man, in general, has better discipline, more logical judgment, less emotion and different position in society all over the world from primitive societies to most advanced, technical and industrial societies. Also man generally has a better income, which makes him more financially responsible for welfare of his family members, as it is the case all over the world. Man is, in general the “bread- winner” of the family and t times subjects his life and body to terrible dangers to perform a skilled job that requires a lot of sacrifice .For these reasons and many more, Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran concerning man’s edge in the martial relation

“And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have degree.” 2:228

We know that woman is equal to man in all religious rights, as it is well explained in the glorious Quran and the Sunah practices of Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam. There are only minor differences between male and female rights in accordance to Islam, such as inheritance, authority, testimonies, Code of dress and other things to be discussed in a separate book

Woman must offer her husband what he is entitled, and man must offer his wife what she is entitled based on the mutual fruitful relationship they have established in accordance with Islam. Truly, if both parties live up to these standards, both will be extremely happy, and society will become better and more pleasant. When both parties , or even one , fails to abide to these rules, a miserable life the household in general will prevail , as the unhappiness of parents will be reflected on the entire family. Both husband and wife will become unhappy, unproductive, unbearable and miserable if they do not appreciate the rights of each other and live by them

Islam greatly emphasized that man must be kind to woman , in general , ,whether it be a wife , a mother , a sister, a daughter , an aunt , a grandmother , a niece or even someone unrelated to him. Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, said: “Be kind to woman, woman have been created from bent rib. The most dent of the rib is its top. If you try to straighten that dent you will break it. If you left it alone it remains as is. Therefore, be as kind, nice and good to women as you could”. This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim

Muslim reported a similar Hadith saying: “Woman has been created from (man’s) rib. That rib is bent somewhat. If you attempt to straighten the dent you will never be able to do so. Therefore, you may enjoy your relation with the woman with understanding that she has a dent (i.e. minor defects). If you attempt to correct the dent, you will break the relationship, which means you break the marriage and the martial relations between both.”

Muslims also reported another statement of Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam saying: “A believing Muslim husband must not hate his believing Muslim wife (and break the marriage relation ties) If a husband dislikes one thing of his wife, (let him remember) he likes other things and points in her character

The prophet, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam in the previous statements, guides, teaches and establishes the way that the woman should be treated and dealt with. This is meant for all the Muslims Ummah regardless of social; status. No one person on the face of Earth , with the exception of the prophets and Messengers of Allah, Almighty , is infallible .Although the prophets themselves claimed that they may commit minor mistakes in terms of worldly things other than divine revelation descended to them by Allah, the almighty, from heaven. Perfection is a relative term. Man should accept his mate as is. Woman also should accept her husband as is. Both must exert every effort to improve one another. But they must remember that both are entitled to certain specific rights that Islam has established for them and they should enjoy. On the other hand, Islam imposed certain requirements from both that they must also fulfil. If both accept each other on these premises, the family will enjoy a healthy atmosphere and they will lead splendid, wonderful and very happy life under the umbrella of Islam

We can vividly notice how Islam again and again coincides with the natural, innate nature of a man. Man desires a happy, flowery, rosy, cosy, neat and nice home with most beloved person to him, or her, after the love of the creator, the prophet and parents. Islam urges both the husband, in the first place, to be extremely kind, keen and nice in his relationship with his spouse and provide her with all due rights imposed unto him by Allah, the Almighty. And the teachings of Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam. Similarly , the woman is expected to do the same , and obey her husband as long as he respects her , fulfils her rights, makes her feel loved, cared for and wanted , and does not impose any unlawful or illegal things upon her

That is Islam. There is nothing else that matches its innate quality

The Rights of the Wife upon her Husband

The wife is naturally entitled for food, clothing, housing and other related items with expenses to be born by the husband. This natural right has been given by Allah, the almighty, to the wife based on the verse from the glorious Quran

“The mothers shall give suck to their offspring for two whole years, if the father desires to complete the term. But he shall bear the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms.” 2: 233

Moreover, Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said: “(Wives) are entitled for food and clothing from their husbands in equitable terms.” Also the prophet, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam was once asked: “What is the right of the wife unto her husband?” He, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said: “ she is entitled for the same food you eat , offer her clothing whatever you buy yourself clothes, do not hit her on the face , do not insult her and do not abandon her unless you do so in the same house ( under the same roof). “ This Hadith is reported by Abu Dawood

Similarly, other rights to which the wife entitled is to be treated justly and fairly in case of multiple marriages. In such case the husband must be fair and just too both wives, treat them fairly in terms of expenditure, housing, time and all other items of which the husband is capable. Being biased or even inclinated and preferring one wife over the other is considered one of the major sins in Islam in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said: “If a man married two wives and preferred one over the other, he will come on the Day of the Judgment with a distinctly slanted side of his body.” This Hadith is reported by Imam Ahmed and reporters of the book of Sunan.

Man , as the husband , however , will not held responsible or accountable for things that he has no control over, such as love , affection and self comfort . Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran

“You are never able to be fair and just as between women, even if it is your ardent desire: But turn not away (from a woman) altogether, so as to leave her (as it were) hanging (in the air). “ 4:129

It is also reported that Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam used to divide things amongst his wives fairly and equally, and then saying: “O Allah! This is the fair distribution that I can do best in accordance to my abilities. O Allah! Please blame me not for what you own and I do not own (i.e. the acts of the here in terms of love and affection.”) This Hadith is reported by Abu Dawood, Tirmithe, Ibn Majah and Nasaiee.

However, if a husband preferred one wife over another in terms of spending the night with, based on the approval and acceptance of the other wife, then in such a case, there is no harm. That, in fact , was the case with Aisha and Swadah , two of his wives , may Allah be pleased with them , when Sawdah agreed to grant her night to Aisha, Radhi Allahu Anha toward the end of the life of the prophet, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam. Yet, when the prophet, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, became very ill, he continuously asked: “Where shall be tomorrow (i.e. in whose house)?” All his wives agreed to let him stay at the house of Aisha where he wanted to be until his death, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam.” This Hadith was reported by both Bukhari and Muslim

The Right of the Husband Upon the Wife

The rights of the husband upon his wife are greater than the rights of the wife upon her husband for the simple reason that Allah, the Almighty, stated in the glorious Quran

“And women shall have rights similar to the rights against them, according to what is equitable; but men have a degree.” 2:228

Man is the care-taker of his wife and house hold. He is responsible for all the affairs. He is responsible for training, direction and discipline in needed. Allah, the Almighty stated in the glorious Quran

“Men are the protectors of women, because God has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.” 4:34

It is an essential right of man over his wife to be obeyed so long as his commands don not conflict or contradict the commands of Allah, the Almighty, Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, and the general teachings and codes of ethics of Islam. A Muslim wife must also protect her husband‘s secrets and privacies. She also must protect his wealth, finance and belongings as much as possible. Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said:” If I were to command a single person to bow in prostration to an other person, I could have commanded a women to bow down (in obedience and respect, not in worship) to her husband.” Furthermore , Allah’s Apostle , Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam, said : “If a husband calls his wife to his bed , but the latter refused to fulfil the call (for any reason other than a lawful one), which drives the man become upset with his wife, then angles will curse such a wife until she gets up in the morning.” Both Hadith are reported by both Bukhari and Muslim

Another right of the husband over his wife is that husband asks his wife not to do something, including, but not limited to voluntary acts of worship, other than obligatory, which cause her to lesson the time that her husband may have to enjoy her. Allah’s Apostle , Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam stated :” A wife is not allowed to observe fast ( other than fasting in the month Ramadan , the prescribed month for fasting) in the presence of her husband, unless she has his permission, She may not allow any one to come into his house , unless he permits.” This Hadith is reported by Tirmithee, who said: “It is a sound and fair Hadith

Moreover, Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam placed the satisfaction and pleasure of a husband to be one of the reasons to enable the wife to enter paradise. Tirmithee reported from Ummu Salamah, the mother of the believers, Radhi Allahu Anha, that Allah’s Apostle, Sallalahu Alaihi wa Sallam said: “Any woman whose husband dies while he is pleased, happy and satisfied with her (acts, attitudes and behaviour) will enter Jannah

There are but few items of the many rights that Islam, the religion of truth, imposes upon those who commit themselves to follow and practices it as a way of life

We vividly see that such rights, if maintained properly, will lead a society to peace, happiness and tranquillity. A husband becomes caring, affectionate, loving and responsible, yet directing and capable and discipline when needed to improve a trouble some situation, regardless of his tender care and love for his wife, so that vise and wickedness will not spread in the society, A wife becomes more respected, adored, cared for, highly needed and appreciated if she respects the rights of her husband and equally given the rights she is entitled for by Islam

In such a coherent way, the religion of truth, goodness, justice, equity, and all fairness coincide with basic requirements of life including harmony between all the members of the society, especially between husband and the wife